When the Holidays Feel Heavy: Mental Health Support During the Holidays

As the holidays get closer, some feel a sense of joy and excitement: seeing family, celebrating, eating good food, and more. There are also some who struggle this time of year for many reasons. 

What makes the holidays difficult for some individuals?

• Seasonal Affective Disorder is common during the fall and winter months due to a decreased amount of sunlight and shorter days causing an increase in depression-like symptoms. 

• Holidays can increase symptoms of grief in some individuals due to memories of holidays spent with deceased loved ones coming up. 

• Difficult or strained family relationships can cause increased stress and anxiety in some during the holidays.

• Financial difficulties are often heightened during holiday seasons which can lead to worry and sadness. 

If you struggle with looking forward to the holidays, there are many ways to support your mental health during this time of year. 

• If you notice an increase in depression-like symptoms such as low mood and low energy, establishing a consistent routine and including time for hobbies, exercise, and other enjoyable activities can help in improving overall mood. 

• Some who have lost loved ones around the holidays or have noticed grief increasing during the holidays find support in being around other family members-especially those who have experienced the same loss, staying present in the moment, and remembering the love they shared with their loved ones. 

• If you have strained relationships with family members, or notice increased tension around the holidays, remember that setting boundaries is not only helpful, but healthy. Establishing boundaries can be beneficial in creating a safe and stress-free holiday season. 

• If finances are causing extra stress during the holidays, spend time focusing on the memories that are made rather than trying to strive for perfection. Long lasting memories can be priceless. 

If you find yourself continuing to struggle around the holidays, remember that it is okay to ask for help! There are many experienced counselors and therapists in the Quad Cities, and those of us at Bettendorf Counseling Center and here to help you feel heard, respected, and understood year round!